IRIS
Born October 29th, 2020 in a hospital in Geneva
MY AMAZING AND LOVELY MARATHON BIRTH
"This is the story of an amazing and powerful experience….
The 29th of October I gave birth to my beautiful cutie pie:-)
All started the 27th...I was in my 40th week and the midwife visited me in the morning...then I started losing mucus plug ......in the afternoon I started to have pain..so I had a nap...in the evening surges started...they were not regular so I waited till 2 am in the morning ( it was the 28th ) to call the midwife...she told me to take a bath and then to call her again at 6am to do a check.
Surges became more regular so at 8 am on the 28th I went to the hospital and they accepted me.
I was dilatated at 3 cm so they did all the controls and allowed me and my husband to go in the natural room.
Was so exciting...we put the music on...the candles...I entered in the bathtub...and we laughed...we enjoyed the moment...we ate dates, apricot, almonds, drunk coconut water...my husband was every single moment at my side and at every surge he wrapped and squeezed my hips with his arms to relieve my pain which became more an more intense but, thanks to his help bearable.....
We practiced all what we'd learned during our Hypnobirthing sessions with Kasia...breathing...doing exercises to help the baby go down....we were a team with my husband and the baby...we were preparing the amazing moment in the most beautiful way....we were full of love, peace, kindness, tranquility, joy,...
At 6 pm I was 5 cm dilatated so the midwife proposed me to take pitocin to allow my body go faster , but I refused and at 7pm I was 8cm dilatation....so it meant I produced my own oxytocin. We were so happy because we trusted that the joyful moment was almost there...
And then another midwife started her shift ....she was so sweet , so delicate, full of tenderness, she was MY DREAM MIDWIFE... I said, that because the tough moments started from 7pm ..cause from 8 cm to 10 cm my body took almost 7 hours....and the pain in the back was every minute much more intense... And it is fundamental to underline the importance of the midwife. A person who is not only competent, but extremely sweet, patient, present, calm, serene....
Towards the end I started not to feel my legs...I was hanging on a kind of vine on my knees but I was very tired and I also had some retching but it was only saliva.. the midwife sweetly always gave me to drink little sips.. she massaged me....and then made me move to bed for the final thrust....the problem was that my daughter was pushing her head on my pubis and my husband had seen her hair sprout seven times....but then came back inside...
so gently the midwife informed me that she would have called the doctors and share with them...
so it was.. the gynecologists came in.. they looked at the vital functions and quietly told me that they would have not intervened with forceps or suckers but that I would have been able to get her out as I had foreseen...and so it was.
I didn't lose hope....on the contrary when they said suckers.....I said "Ehi no...I didn't do all this to get her out like this..." I talked to my daughter and together we concentrated all our final energies to meet us and so it was....after a few minutes she was on my chest....and I was already madly in love with her....
For a moment there everything could have changed...the situation could have turned upside down...and I could have been traumatized...all this did not happen thanks to a set of factors...but I think the most decisive were the competence of the midwife.. and my state of mind, calm and tranquil...if only one of these two variables would have been different...maybe the birth could not have ended like this, in this beautiful way.
Thanks to our hypnobirthing session with Kasia I remained concentrated and focus on my breath...I didn't lose the control on my body, in my body power and in my strength....
A hypnobirthing course is not a « meditation course or hypnosis course.. » as maybe some people think. Hypnobirthing empowers to trust in our capacities, it is not only a birth preparation course, but it is much more, because it includes specific information about our body changes during pregnancy, during birth phase and full of advices on how to manage the 4th trimester....
I am so grateful to Kasia, she was amazing during all the meetings, she is a beautiful soul and allowed us to take pleasure from this amazing experience in the most beautiful way, without stress and helped us to remember that it's important to stay open, to have our «desires/preferences/dreams» but at the same time, not to feel frustrated if something goes in a different way.
That was the key, no expectation but a lot of willing to do our best.
In my case all went as we dreamed, except for the lengthiness of labor :-) but anyway all this made me even stronger..."
Luana and Umberto invited me to share the HypnoBirthing tools with them during a private HypnoBirthing course via Zoom. Luana also joined me weekly for prenatal yoga classes via Zoom from beginning of her second trimester